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On April 16th, I turned 36 years old. I don’t feel any different (still hot to trot) but I do know that I’ve changed. I am more resilient than I’ve ever been, even when things don’t turn out the way that I imagined or planned. Cause here’s the thing about life: it’s unpredictable. Why just a month ago I was 35, single, and without my dream TV job or love. This month things have changed.

There is a new man in my life that has surprised me. I was single one minute and the next I am smitten. Just. Like. That. It came about when I stopped bitching about what I lacked. I said to myself, “You have love in your life and you love what you do albeit the stress of it all. You don’t need a television show or fame to fill you. You have nothing to prove.”

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Runedate is the biggest social app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people. It has millions of users around the world and makes it easy to meet new people-mostly for quick and casual hookups. Instead of swiping, you see a collage of people nearby. You can use tags, make private photo albums, filter your search, and chat with others near you.

I thought I did, but now at 36 I know it’s just…stuff. I will always continue to work hard in all that I do but I also want to stand on solid ground, particularly with a great man by my side. And with a family.

The lesson here: we don’t always get what we want when we want it, or even how we want it. But when we count our blessings, well, we truly do get it all.